I saw this question posted to one of the fitness pages I currently follow. No plans in this post to give credit where credit is due because I do not want to credit a perfectly awesome page with lots of great advice in a negative post. Don’t worry, page, I will credit you in a superly-awesome amazaballs way.
Yep! You’re catching on quick…this, my friends, is a rant.
Now I have been struggling with my weight since 2009 when I hit the highest weight I had ever seen on a scale. I was matter-of-factly morbidly obese and BREAKING the scale at 346 pounds. No! Seriously. I broke it. When I would stand on the scale, the weight from my body would push the metal down and stop the little spinny thing from rotating.
I mean, I was SOOO much of a sex kitten that my rolls had rolls and I think (according to some lovely family members) my butt started to sprout another butt. I mean it…I had a mini ass coming off of my ass. I had a double ass.
Since this photo I have lost a lot of weight…and by a lot, I mean that I’ve lost a human and a half. There was a short period after the death of a close relative that I gained about 50 or 60 pounds in between. This weight gain prompted me to go even further into the fitness realm and make even MORE healthy changes like managing macros, building muscle, and taking the steps needed to not only lose weight but achieve greatness. Still a work in progress…
There were so many people who “worried” about me. Told me that I shouldn’t really shovel ANYTHING into my body because I had already eaten enough and that I was going to kill myself if I continued on this way. With a smile I would walk away…stop at the drive thru and literally EAT those words. Nothing anyone said had an effect on me…well, of course, other than hurting my feelings.
I know what you’re going to say… “It’s for your own good.”
To beat you to the punch. My answer to your ignorant statements justifying the reason why these people said such hateful things is, “bullshit.” They didn’t say it to be constructive, or loving because there were absolutely no other suggestions stated other than me losing weight. They didn’t say it because they were worried. They said it because they saw an opportunity to belittle the person they considered a lesser human being because of her size.
Is there a way to help someone lose weight without being hurtful? ~Some user on Facebook, somewhere.
There is truthfully no way to suggest a lifestyle change of this magnitude to a person who is not ready to make those kinds of changes. The only thing you will do by trying to “help” is hinder any kind of progress that the person has been trying to do on their own.
Maybe, instead, consider this.
What if they are happy, confident, and content with the skin they are in? If the person you speak of is actually happy to be who they are and pleased with their appearance…then there is absolutely nothing you NEED to do to help them. Besides minding your own business.
If you know for a fact that being overweight is not where the person wants to be and you would still like to help. Try inviting them over for a healthy meal -I am assuming you know how to eat healthy if you are making such judgments- and show them what you can do with food in a healthy way, without all of the junk added. Schedule a day to get together and slowly walk around an interesting area in your neighborhood or use your guest pass at the gym.
If you want to be proactive. Help them. Don’t just assume they are full of greed, lazy, and against change. Fat people are not your punching bag, they are not diseased, and they are people just like you. They just happen to be people that if pushed too much can sit on you and gouge your eyeballs out with their cereal spork -so- I would advise against being a dick.