So you’re worried about the fattie in the family…

I saw this question posted to one of the fitness pages I currently follow. No plans in this post to give credit where credit is due because I do not want to credit a perfectly awesome page with lots of great advice in a negative post.  Don’t worry, page, I will credit you in a superly-awesome amazaballs way.

Yep! You’re catching on quick…this, my friends, is a rant.

Now I have been struggling with my weight since 2009 when I hit the highest weight I had ever seen on a scale. I was matter-of-factly morbidly obese and BREAKING the scale at 346 pounds. No! Seriously.  I broke it.  When I would stand on the scale, the weight from my body would push the metal down and stop the little spinny thing from rotating.

fat copy

 

I mean, I was SOOO much of a sex kitten that my rolls had rolls and I think (according to some lovely family members) my butt started to sprout another butt.  I mean it…I had a mini ass coming off of my ass.  I had a double ass.

Since this photo I have lost a lot of weight…and by a lot, I mean that I’ve lost a human and a half.  There was a short period after the death of a close relative that I gained about 50 or 60 pounds in between.  This weight gain prompted me to go even further into the fitness realm and make even MORE healthy changes like managing macros, building muscle, and taking the steps needed to not only lose weight but achieve greatness.  Still a work in progress…

There were so many people who “worried” about me.  Told me that I shouldn’t really shovel ANYTHING into my body because I had already eaten enough and that I was going to kill myself if I continued on this way.  With a smile I would walk away…stop at the drive thru and literally EAT those words.  Nothing anyone said had an effect on me…well, of course, other than hurting my feelings.

I know what you’re going to say…  “It’s for your own good.

To beat you to the punch.  My answer to your ignorant statements justifying the reason why these people said such hateful things is, “bullshit.”  They didn’t say it to be constructive, or loving because there were absolutely no other suggestions stated other than me losing weight.  They didn’t say it because they were worried.  They said it because they saw an opportunity to belittle the person they considered a lesser human being because of her size.

Is there a way to help someone lose weight without being hurtful? ~Some user on Facebook, somewhere.

 

There is truthfully no way to suggest a lifestyle change of this magnitude to a person who is not ready to make those kinds of changes.  The only thing you will do by trying to “help” is hinder any kind of progress that the person has been trying to do on their own.

Maybe, instead, consider this.

What if they are happy, confident, and content with the skin they are in?  If the person you speak of is actually happy to be who they are and pleased with their appearance…then there is absolutely nothing you NEED to do to help them.  Besides minding your own business.

If you know for a fact that being overweight is not where the person wants to be and you would still like to help.  Try inviting them over for a healthy meal -I am assuming you know how to eat healthy if you are making such judgments- and show them what you can do with food in a healthy way, without all of the junk added.  Schedule a day to get together and slowly walk around an interesting area in your neighborhood or use your guest pass at the gym.

If you want to be proactive.  Help them.  Don’t just assume they are full of greed, lazy, and against change.  Fat people are not your punching bag, they are not diseased, and they are people just like you.  They just happen to be people that if pushed too much can sit on you and gouge your eyeballs out with their cereal spork -so- I would advise against being a dick.

❤ Scatter.

It is OUR fault…

One does not have to become a rocket scientist to figure out that humanity is forgetting the importance in life. Too often I run across facebook posts full of complaints about life and what others choose to do with theirs. A simple scroll will find one of the positive people you know trying to combat so many negative posts by sharing something that someone has done to help another human being. With that post, if you look in the comments, you will see people saying things like, “Faith in humanity restored.”

So why is it that we have the time to write a comment on something that someone else has done for another person but we cannot get off our asses to do the same? The only thing it takes to put a smile on someone’s face is to actually try. In most cases you will not be out a dime, maybe it costs a few seconds.

Here are five FREE ways that you can complete random acts of kindness on a daily basis… That’s right! It costs nothing.

1. Compliment others…
You do not have to become a complete kiss ass to randomly complement someone. You never know what that person has gone through in the hours that they’ve been awake and while you may be having an absolutely wonderful day…they may have just gone through one of the most horrible events in their lives. Do you know the person? Maybe…maybe not but it does not take long to smile sweetly and say, “Hi, you have beautiful eyes.”

2. Help someone who seems to be having trouble…
You notice that the person next to you has dropped $20 on the ground. Do you wait for them to walk away and keep it? Or do you hand it back? For once, try handing it back to them. You never know if that is the last $20 they have to feed their children on for the rest of the week, now do you? Is the person struggling to carry heavy things? HELP!

3. Say positive things…
Don’t be a pessimist when one of your friends is thinking positively by blurting out the horrible things that COULD happen.

When one of your friends is being a pessimist…try reassuring them instead of agreeing that THIS will most certainly end badly.

4. Explore…
Try stopping at the pet store or an animal shelter on your way home from work to pay attention to the animals on display. They need love and attention just as much as an animal that actually has a place to call home. While you are at it feel free to say, “Hi” to the obviously homeless person sitting on the sidewalk.

5. Tolerate others…
Have tolerance for other people’s beliefs and don’t try to convince another person that your way is the only way.

Those are my ides and now I am interested in hearing yours! Feel free to post them in the comments!

❤ Scatter